For all you newbie parents wondering what life is like on the other side, have some faith. It’s not that bad.
Yes, teen boys are every bit what they’re made out to be. Get the second refrigerator now while you can. Contract with the fire department to hose down their room once a month. And I would buy a stack of greeting cards for the school principals, because you will get to know them that well.
Even with all that, it’s better on this side.
You won’t be always changing diapers, waking up in the middle of the night or attending a black-tie dinner with a burp cloth on your shoulder. You won’t have to worry about feeling guilty before dipping into the strained apricots.
The screaming, begging and the tears in the grocery store will stop one day. No more sugar-fueled, soda pop-induced parties, first day of school, hair clips, mismatched socks, songs at bedtime. You won’t have to attend any more school plays where you pray your son doesn’t ruin his lines. He’s the one who’s a tree.
There won’t be a need to have an in-depth conversation with a can of formula or get the latest e-edition of Diaper Craft magazine.
Keep looking at your watch and the months and years will fly by. It won’t be long before you won’t have to talk to them about sex or listen to the same knock-knock joke for the 43rd time.
You won’t be the dork father I was in elementary school, watching my oldest daughter, Micah, standing up there to get an award. She was so tiny back then, barely able to see eye-to-eye with one of the seven dwarfs.
All the students were lined up in a row while the parents were ordered to the back of the room.
I remember when they called her award and she walked forward. A tear trickled down my cheek when the principal handed her a certificate. I don’t think it was for anything great, like maybe coloring within the lines or walking down the hallway without tripping.
But at that moment, it seemed the most important award in the world. And they were giving it to my daughter.
I quickly wiped it away, hoping she didn’t see me. This could be irreversible harm to her street cred.
I’m sure Micah prayed for the same thing when she got back in line. Until one of her friends leaned over and asked, “Is that your dad crying?”
If I’m not mistaken, that’s when she covered her face with her hands and shook her head.
That same daughter will be graduating soon from college. I plan to be standing there watching, along with several hundred other parents. I’m sure I will cry again, but I won’t care.
I’ll pause to think of the old days, even the very first time I drove her home from the hospital. I kept looking back at her buckled in our Mercury Monarch and asking myself, “Is this really mine?”
Yes, these days will pass before you know it. And they will have been very much worthwhile.
Mike Henneke is the Sunday editor. His blog can be found at mikehenneke.mvourtown.com
For all you newbie parents wondering what life is like on the other side, have some faith. It’s not that bad.
Yes, teen boys are every bit what they’re made out to be. Get the second refrigerator now while you can. Contract with the fire department to hose down their room once a month. And I would buy a stack of greeting cards for the school principals, because you will get to know them that well.
Even with all that, it’s better on this side.
You won’t be always changing diapers, waking up in the middle of the night or attending a black-tie dinner with a burp cloth on your shoulder. You won’t have to worry about feeling guilty before dipping into the strained apricots.
The screaming, begging and the tears in the grocery store will stop one day. No more sugar-fueled, soda pop-induced parties, first day of school, hair clips, mismatched socks, songs at bedtime. You won’t have to attend any more school plays where you pray your son doesn’t ruin his lines. He’s the one who’s a tree.
There won’t be a need to have an in-depth conversation with a can of formula or get the latest e-edition of Diaper Craft magazine.
Keep looking at your watch and the months and years will fly by. It won’t be long before you won’t have to talk to them about sex or listen to the same knock-knock joke for the 43rd time.
You won’t be the dork father I was in elementary school, watching my oldest daughter, Micah, standing up there to get an award. She was so tiny back then, barely able to see eye-to-eye with one of the seven dwarfs.
All the students were lined up in a row while the parents were ordered to the back of the room.
I remember when they called her award and she walked forward. A tear trickled down my cheek when the principal handed her a certificate. I don’t think it was for anything great, like maybe coloring within the lines or walking down the hallway without tripping.
But at that moment, it seemed the most important award in the world. And they were giving it to my daughter.
I quickly wiped it away, hoping she didn’t see me. This could be irreversible harm to her street cred.
I’m sure Micah prayed for the same thing when she got back in line. Until one of her friends leaned over and asked, “Is that your dad crying?”
If I’m not mistaken, that’s when she covered her face with her hands and shook her head.
That same daughter will be graduating soon from college. I plan to be standing there watching, along with several hundred other parents. I’m sure I will cry again, but I won’t care.
I’ll pause to think of the old days, even the very first time I drove her home from the hospital. I kept looking back at her buckled in our Mercury Monarch and asking myself, “Is this really mine?”
Yes, these days will pass before you know it. And they will have been very much worthwhile.
3 comments
LaurieBee says:
Apr 25, 2010
Timely post. I spent the evening with my second daughter, Hannah, and my grandson, Joey, at a Relief Society function tonight. Hannah was singing in the program, and she wanted me to come to her stake and keep Joey occupied while she sang. Hannah is pregant with her second child. Eight sisters sang tonight, and five of them were pregnant. They were all lovely, and sang like angels. When Hannah sang her solo, I found tears running down my cheek. I lifted Joey a little higher on my lap and put my face behind him so Hannah couldn't see me crying. I was afraid that if she saw my tears, her homones would kick in, and she'd start. I had visions of 5 preggies trying to perform through tears. I managed to pull it together. It seems like yesterday that it was Hannah sitting on my lap.
brettnordquist says:
Apr 25, 2010
That must be a good feeling watching your daughter progress through life. As much as I'm looking forward to the times when I don't have to change a diaper or listen to the same joke over and over, I'm thrilled to be where I am today. Today, Luca jumped on my lap after spending the afternoon outside. She was cold and tucked herself under the blanket as we sat at my computer. It won't be long before she's too big to sit on my lap.
KimN says:
Apr 25, 2010
Thanks for causing some of those tears in MY eyes! You sound like a great dad and I think it is neat that you show your emotions. I wish more men would!